We welcome our guest author of the month, Marlyn Wells. From “Notations From The Heart“…..
Trust! It is, probably, by far one of the most powerful words in the English language. Yet it is, by all probability, the most misused, misguided, misrepresented and misunderstood word used today. If you look up the word “trust” in Webster’s dictionary it will read, “to believe that someone is honest or good.” We, as Americans, put “In God We Trust” on all of our currency, yet there are those who do not believe in God. So does that mean that because of the “few” disbelievers we should stop putting those words on our monies? Absolutely not!
How then is it that we seem to lack “trust” in someone because of our past experiences? It just seems to be our “nature” to do so. And , whether we want to admit it or not, we’re all guilty of it at one time or another. I know that I am. Face it, we are all human and as such we let what “someone else” has done to us in the past dictate how we handle the “present” or our “future.”
Everyone, or should I say, most everyones dream is to one day meet that “special someone”, fall in love, get married, have a family and live happily ever after. Yet, that is not always how it ends up for a lot of us. For some of us it ends up being “only a dream.” This is all because that along the way an “intruder” came into the situation and destroyed that relationship. It may not have been from “fault” of their own or because of their willingness to become involved with someone who was already in a “relationship” they then became just as guilty as anyone else.
Personally speaking, having been married twice and divorced twice, I now find it hard to let anyone “in.” In other words, I don’t get close enough to someone to “fall in love.” So many times,, even in “casual” dating I’ve heard the words, “Oh, I’d never do that to you.” Yet, in some way or another they do just what they say they won’t do and I end up getting hurt all over again. After a while you just feel like “giving up” because you don’t care anymore whether or not you find Mr. Right or Ms. Right.
Very rarely anymore do the words “Till death do us part” seem to have any meaning to some at all. They are used ever so lightly that most of the time they seem as mere “words.” When I’ve asked young people in the past about marriage more often than not I get the response, “Well, if it doesn’t work, we’ll just get a divorce.” Trust in no longer important in relationships because in their eyes they want an easy fix or an easy way out. All too often that means divorce.
Again someone ends up being hurt all because “trust” got lost somewhere in the mix. The relationship seemed doomed from the very start. The only “real solution” I can give is we must let God have total control over our lives allowing Him to direct our footsteps and the direction in which we should walk in life. In the Bible, Proverbs 3:5-6 (NKJV) it says: “Trust in the Lord will all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He shall direct your paths.”
Thanks, Marlyn, for such a candid and honest dialogue about trust. We look forward to Part II in which you give some real clear-cut insight to this most important topic of “trust.”